Serial cheaters will never be trustworthy

Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship with "Hunter" for six years. For the first three, he was married to someone else. He'd had affairs throughout his entire marriage, but he left his wife and daughter, gave up everything and moved in with me. Now he's cheating on me. I've already caught him twice.

Hunter can't afford to move out because he gives his ex most of his money, and I don't want to kick him out in the street. I can't sleep and it's beginning to take a toll on everything I do.

I don't really have anyone to talk to because everyone will say I'm getting what I deserve. Am I beyond help? Hunter says he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. - Reaping What I've Sown

Dear Reaper: Hunter probably told his wife that, too, but it didn't mean much. Your boyfriend is a serial cheater, and unless he gets professional help to understand himself better, he won't stop - not for you, not for anyone. He may love you, but he will not be faithful. You need to decide if you want to stay with someone who we guarantee will cheat on you again. We think it's time to tell Hunter he has to find another place to live, and don't let him sweet-talk you into letting him stay. You are not responsible for supporting him.

Dear Annie: Last year, my church hired a new pastor. He has a girlfriend whom he is planning to marry on a Sunday, during the only service that day. They have asked members to bring a dish to a potluck reception following the ceremony. The pastor listed places where congregants can buy gifts and also suggested we help decorate the church by purchasing flowers to donate.

Maybe I'm looking at this wrong, but I don't think having a wedding on a Sunday is right, making attendance at their wedding obligatory if we wish to go to services. It seems selfish. And asking members to provide for their wedding is a bit much. Is this appropriate behavior from a pastor? - Very Disturbed