Check out the support site for those working in Iraq and their families

Dear Annie: My husband is a private contractor working in Iraq. When he came home on leave last October, he asked me to recondition his computer. While setting up his e-mail account, I noticed mail from an adult dating service. There were multiple e-mails from dozens of women. He had listed himself as a widower. I admitted I snooped, and he went ballistic.

An injury in December sent him home. While recuperating, he registered with at least three adult swinger sites. Heaven knows how many people he met while I was at work. When I received the phenomenal phone bill, I hired a private investigator, who found e-mails, multiple profiles, names and numbers.

My husband is back in Iraq now and denies everything. I've started counseling. I don't know how many other wives go through this. Unlike military wives, we don't have a big support network. No amount of money is worth this.

I curl up in a ball every night and bawl my eyes out. My husband has embarrassed me at church and made it impossible to hold my head up at the post office. I don't know how many women he's slept with. I am going to have to move pretty far away to get over this. Any suggestions? - Cheated On

Dear Cheated On: We're glad you're in counseling, because you need as much support as you can get. Don't worry about what others may think. People are more sympathetic than you suspect, and many understand that you are going through a difficult time. There is a support website for those working in Iraq and their families. Please check out americancontractorsiniraq.com.

Dear Annie: I had to respond to the letter from "Stressed-Out Parents in Virginia," whose 35-year-old daughter was addicted to drugs.

As a recovering addict (seven years clean), I can say the parents are doing additional harm to their daughter by enabling her. As long as they continue to bail her out of trouble, she will never get herself together. Once my parents finally stopped "helping" me, I had to do things on my own.

I was 34 years old with two kids when I decided to clean up my act. The daughter must want to get sober for herself. And prayer really does help. I wish them well and hope she realizes her life can get better before it's too late. - A Walking Testimony