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Dear Abby

In-law will be outlaw if she dates dad

Dear Abby: My son and his wife, “Carole,” have been married for 2 years. I was recently introduced to her father, “Ted,” who has been alone for 13 years. Carole told me later in no uncertain terms that I cannot have a romantic relationship with her father. Then she repeated the same thing to him.

Do you think it’s right for adult children to dictate to their parents who they can and cannot see? Ted and I are perplexed. We really like each other and would like to see where this relationship could go. What’s your opinion?

– Deserves To Be Happy

Dear Deserves: Before the relationship goes further, you and Ted should step back and ask yourselves what might happen if this romance doesn’t work out. Would the hurt feelings disrupt the family dynamic? If this can be handled thoughtfully, with grace and maturity, I agree that you deserve to be happy.

Dear Abby: I have been friends with “Kurt” for many years. We met during Little League, and as we got older we stood up in each other’s wedding. He was my best man.

Kurt’s marriage is in trouble because he has a gambling problem. I feel guilty because I never said anything to him about it when we were together at the casino and he was spending more money than he could afford. I was with him only a handful of times, but I still think I should have spoken up.

Should I have? Kurt is going to Gamblers Anonymous meetings now, trying to save his marriage.

– Guilty in Wisconsin

Dear Guilty: You could have said something to your friend, but the question is, would Kurt have listened and accepted what you were trying to convey? People who have addictions are usually in denial until they have no other choice but to face it.

Feeling guilty won’t help this situation. Being supportive of your longtime friend and making sure that when you’re together there is no wagering happening (i.e., on sporting events) would be helpful. The rest is up to him.

Dear Abby: I recently ended a 2-year relationship with my boyfriend. We are both 20. He was a great boyfriend – always patient, kind, gentle, and loving. However, I was often impatient, short-tempered, and controlling. These issues were my personal problems. I always tried to work on them, but I knew I wasn’t treating him the way I should. I ended things with him because I felt guilty.

It has been a month now, and I’m having second thoughts about having ended it with an almost-perfect person. I miss him. Would it be unwise to reach out to him again?

– Broken Up
But Not Over It

Dear Not Over It: Not necessarily. But before you do, allow yourself a period of introspection during which you focus less on your missing him and concentrate on why you were abusive to him. A man with his qualities deserves to be treated with more respect than you showed him. The truism, “If you don’t value what you’ve got, you will lose it,” applies to relationships.

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