Dear Abby: I need some advice about my girlfriend “Vivian’s” son. “Kirk” is 22 and very immature. I love Vivian with all my heart, and I get upset when Kirk verbally abuses her. I try not to say anything because I feel it’s not my place because he’s not MY son.

Kirk hasn’t worked in two years. He walks into his mother’s house and takes whatever he wants – food, toothpaste, rolls of toilet paper, etc. He won’t help her around the house, mow the lawn or wash a dirty dish he has used. And he lives rent-free in one of the duplexes his mother bought for additional income.

Vivian is a wonderful woman who is hard-working and self-supporting. She’s also tired of her son’s lack of motivation and how he takes her for granted.