Dear Abby: My younger brother confided that he got a girl pregnant. I’m the only one he has told and it’s killing me. The baby is about 2 months old, and my folks still don’t know they could possibly be grandparents. My brother doesn’t want to tell them right now, and he also doesn’t want a paternity test to see if the baby is his because he doesn’t want to face the reality that he could really be a father.

Abby, knowing that I could have a niece out there is killing me because there are so many children who harbor resentment toward their absentee fathers. I really want to do the right thing and get my parents involved, but if I do, I’ll lose my brother’s trust. If I don’t tell, I will have to live with the fact that I am abetting my brother being another stereotypical deadbeat dad. Please help.

– Aunty In Disguise